Kenyan author Hilda Lumati recently shared her journey of preserving her purity until marriage, highlighting the role of discipline, boundaries, and upbringing in her life.
Speaking with Dr. Ofweneke, she recounted how growing up in Kakamega county and being raised in a strict African household shaped her character.
Her parents instilled values that emphasized self-control, respect, and understanding of village life, which she credits for her strong moral foundation.
Hilda explained that dating posed significant challenges. She was in a four-year relationship that ended because her partner demanded intimacy she was not ready to offer.
Reflecting on the experience, she emphasized the importance of setting clear boundaries in relationships.
“It is okay to make friends, but then how are you taking care of yourself? And do you have boundaries?” she said. Avoiding secluded areas with men was a conscious decision that helped her maintain her principles.
The author proudly revealed that she has only slept with her husband, stating, “My body count is one. Before then, no man touched me.
People think that I am crazy.” She expressed concern about the current societal norms, noting that casual intimacy is widely normalized, and women who choose abstinence are often seen as the problem, a perspective she strongly disagrees with.
Hilda’s story has sparked discussions among Kenyans, with reactions reflecting a growing appreciation for women choosing to uphold purity before marriage.
She believes that self-discipline, respect for oneself, and adherence to personal values are crucial in maintaining integrity in relationships.
Her experiences underscore the importance of conscious choices, clear boundaries, and moral resilience, offering a perspective that contrasts with prevailing social pressures around intimacy.
By sharing her journey, Hilda Lumati hopes to inspire young women to define their own standards and make decisions that align with their values, despite societal expectations.
By Newshub