Prominent Nairobi lawyer Wahome Thuku has offered a rare glimpse into what really happens behind the scenes when parents walk into a lawyer’s office with child-related disputes.
Through a detailed social media post, Thuku explained that such cases almost always fall into eight distinct categories.
Most involve disputes over child upkeep, access, or custody, issues that reflect the emotional and financial strain many separated parents face.
According to him, the most common cases are those where women sue men for child support or where men are defending themselves after being sued for failing to provide upkeep.
“Numbers 1 and 7 are the most of the cases,” Thuku wrote, noting that these form the bulk of his workload.
He added that the rarest cases involve women being sued for upkeep or men suing baby mamas for financial support. “Numbers 3 and 5 are the least,” he observed, hinting that such situations are uncommon in Kenya’s social and cultural context.
What stood out most in Thuku’s reflection, however, was his concern about men who deny mothers access to their children.
He described such cases as “weird,” expressing disbelief at how some men can bar the very women who carried and nurtured the children from even seeing them.
“How a man denies the baby mama access to the children always baffles me,” Thuku said. “Sure, you donated the sperm, but do you know what it takes to carry a pregnancy to term? She’s only asking to see the child, not even for custody.”
His remarks have sparked debate online, with many Kenyans praising his honesty for shedding light on the realities of family disputes in Kenyan courts, where love turns into litigation and children often become the silent victims.
By Newshub