Content creator Gloria Ntazola has sparked debate online after sharing her thoughts on relationships, accountability and the role women play in modern dating.
In a video reposted by SPM Buzz KE, Ntazola addressed her audience while wearing a colourful hoodie and red lipstick. Her expressive delivery and direct remarks quickly caught the attention of social media users.
“We are the problem, men are not the problem. A man has never stopped his single day for a woman,” she said.
Her comments appeared to challenge the common narrative that men are always responsible for problems experienced in relationships. According to Ntazola, women also need to examine their own decisions, expectations and behaviour when discussing dating struggles.
She suggested that some women may put their personal goals and daily lives on hold for relationships, while men often continue focusing on their work, ambitions and routines.
The content creator appeared to argue that accountability should not be placed on one gender alone. In her view, accepting the bare minimum, failing to maintain personal boundaries and making relationships the centre of one’s life can contribute to patterns that later become difficult to address.
Her remarks have since attracted mixed reactions online. Some viewers agreed with her, saying women should also reflect on the choices they make and the standards they accept in relationships.
However, others felt that her statement was too broad. They argued that many women have genuinely experienced betrayal, emotional pain and unfair treatment, and that such experiences should not be dismissed by placing responsibility on them.
Ntazola is known for her outspoken views on relationships, financial independence and dating expectations. Her direct approach has often generated conversations among her followers, with some praising her honesty while others question the generalisations in her statements.
The latest video has therefore opened another discussion about self reflection, mutual respect and the importance of maintaining individual goals while in a relationship.
As the debate continues, Ntazola’s message remains centred on shared responsibility and the need for both men and women to examine their contribution to relationship dynamics.