Social media personality Wanja Nyarari has sparked conversation online after strongly criticising what she described as hypocrisy and pretence from some individuals following the death of Samuel Michael Kinyanjui, popularly known as “Paps.”
In an emotional Facebook post shared on Thursday, April 9, 2026, Wanja questioned why many people tend to express love, admiration, and positive sentiments about others only after they have died, despite allegedly treating them poorly when they were still alive.
She argued that such behaviour reflects a lack of sincerity in how people relate to one another, especially in close friendships and public relationships.
According to her, some of the tributes circulating after Kinyanjui’s death appeared exaggerated or inconsistent with how certain individuals treated him while he was alive.
Wanja said that the pattern of praising people after their death, while failing to show them kindness in life, raises important questions about authenticity and human relationships. She suggested that some mourners may be driven more by public perception and social expectations than genuine emotion.
Her remarks have sparked mixed reactions online, with some users agreeing with her perspective and acknowledging that society often becomes more appreciative of people only after their passing. Others, however, felt that mourning is a personal process and that public expressions of grief do not always reflect private relationships.
The post has reignited broader discussions about how people express grief on social media, and whether online tributes always represent true feelings or sometimes serve as a form of social performance.
Kinyanjui’s death has continued to draw tributes from friends, colleagues, and fans who remember him for his influence and personality.
However, Wanja’s comments have shifted part of the conversation toward reflection on how individuals treat others while they are alive.
She concluded her message by urging people to practice genuine appreciation and kindness in real time, rather than reserving praise for moments of loss. Her statement has since continued to generate debate across social platforms.