In a heartfelt TikTok video, user @ednakimitei1 spoke openly about how difficult it has been for her to find a partner while living overseas.
She explained that dating in the U.S. is very different from Kenya and that women often face unexpected challenges.
“Let me be honest,” she said.
“In some countries, men are scarce. Many women are really struggling. It’s not like Kenya, where you can walk down the street and a man will approach you.”
Edna noted that in Kenya, men are generally more confident when expressing their interest, making it easier for women to meet potential partners.
However, she explained that the situation is completely different in the U.S., where women often need to take the first step.
“You need the courage to approach a man yourself,” she said.
“Ladies, men are scarce here.”
Her video quickly went viral, sparking mixed reactions from viewers.
Some people sympathized with her struggles, saying they had experienced similar challenges while living abroad. Others, however, shared different opinions.
One user commented, “I guess I have a different experience,” suggesting that not everyone faces the same difficulties. Another said Edna sounded frustrated and heartbroken.
Some viewers believed men abroad avoid relationships due to financial responsibilities.
“They fear child support and bills,” one commenter wrote. Others argued that women’s high expectations or changing social dynamics are also part of the problem.
A few people offered Edna advice instead of criticism. One suggested exploring more social spaces, saying:
“Find pubs in your city, attend festivals, and try dating apps. Be outgoing.”
Another viewer added that cultural differences and competition also play a big role, especially in countries with diverse populations.
They noted that many women who felt highly admired back home sometimes struggle to adjust to new dating norms abroad.
Despite the divided opinions, Edna’s honesty opened up an important conversation about dating challenges faced by many women living overseas.
She encouraged others not to give up and reminded them that finding love often requires patience and courage.
Her message was clear and simple: “Be brave. It’s not easy, but keep trying.”
By Newshub