Intimacy is often the driving force that leads people to leave their family homes and build new lives with their romantic partners. The pursuit of physical intimacy can prompt individuals to go to great lengths – even resorting to deception – just to satisfy their desires. Intimacy is the reason King David killed Uriah.
Despite the powerful spark that may have ignited these partnerships initially, a serious problem that plagues numerous couples in Kenya is the dwindling or even total absence of sex and sexual desire within their marriages.
Richard, 48, an accountant says, âI cannot remember the last time I had sex; after our first child, I did not get sex for the next five years of that marriage. I was enraged; we fought a couple of times with my wife because I only wanted to have sex with her and she could not give me that. Work has also been stressful with no pay.â
His story reflects a common pattern where intimacy drastically declines after childbirth.
Angie, a 36-year-old mother of three, expresses the depth of her frustration with her sexless marriage
She further adds, âI miss the intimacy, but I donât want it with the father of my children anymore.â
This silent crisis of âsexless marriagesâ has become increasingly common, with marriage counsellors reporting that around 30 per cent of their clients cite diminishing intimacy as a primary concern.
A healthy marriage is like a garden, it needs regular attention, care, and nurturing to flourish. Physical intimacy is just one aspect, but itâs an important one that shouldnât be neglected.
I encourage churches to begin serious counselling sessions with members because people are going through very difficult moments.
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