Celestine faced some hard truths in a candid conversation with her husband comedian Njugush about why men change in marriage.
His answers left her pondering as he quizzed her on women’s role in men’s behavior.
“Today I want to talk about how things change. And especially how men change after marriage, not women.” Celestine informed him.
Njugush refused this notion saying women are overstaying the honeymoon
“It takes two to tango. So when you see your partner has changed, ask yourself, what might be causing the change because also alternatively we (men) can be able to say as a woman, you have changed,” Njugush insisted.
He pointed out that women stop looking good,
“You (not her specifically as he noted) no longer wear the clothes that you used to, if you do-wear makeup and short clothes- you are not doing it for me. you are doing it for your girlfriends, you are going for an out, you wear some very short, but whenever I am around, unadunga nini za promo.”
Cele was offended saying, “unakuanga na shida na nguo mrefu?” she questioned before Njugush responded by saying,
“No, I’m just saying it’s just an example, you called me here to talk. So don’t tell me the problem I have. I am telling you the problem you have. You are not listening. So it takes two to tango, so have you asked yourself as a woman, how have you changed? Ni bonnet (touching his head to indicate the headgear women love) when you are doing that makeup, who are you doing that for?”
Celestine responded,
“For the audience,” and Timothy pointed out what he meant with her answer.
“You get my point?” Njugush point blank told her wives don’t look good for their men, but rather for others including social media and their girl squad.
He pointed out this lack of priority as a problem. “When we were dating, we were doing things for each other. But now when you are married, you start doing it for yourself -it’s ok- but my point is when we were dating it was very different.”
He called it ‘we were campaigning’ and advised women to look back at how their man was before she came into the scene.
“That’s where you know my true colors. Are we true to each other when we are dating so that we are not surprised?” he queried his wife.
He says men feel suffocated by their wives.
“Men tulikuwa free na maboyz. When you come into the picture life becomes complicated.” he rants about changes women make in houses.
By Mpasho