Girls, kujeni hapa. It’s time to have a chat about your deep desire to look through your mans phone. What are you hoping to achieve?
Is it ever okay to snoop through your partners phone? That was the discussion by Kenyans on Twitter recently and many gave their examples of the horrifying things one goes through after snooping.
People often go through their partner’s phone because they’re worried about what secrets or illicit activity he or she might be hiding.
One woman said that it is so mentally draining that she would go through PTSD. Twitter user @City_girllll
PTSD won’t let me go thru a niggas phone
If you leave it unlocked next to me I will kindly just lock it for you
You’re not about to have my chest vibrating at 6am
Another @Odero_nicole replied to her comment saying
my toxic self could neverblack-woman-looking-at-cell-phone-310×184
While @DefneyOwuor added her thoughts that
aaah I’m always saying this life I can’t kill myself. Then I choose death
One thing is if you are looking for trouble, you will find it. So what next? Here’s what happens to you
- It makes you into someone you don’t want to be
Nobody likes the person that they become when they are consumed with wanting to snoop. You hang around hoping he will go to the balcony or the bathroom, to give you time to snoop. And if he takes time before leaving his phone alone, it drives you nuts. Do you like the person you’ve become? Huh? Sis, your self esteem is not worth this. - You will always be giving him side eye when he’s looking through his phone
Is it worth always sitting next to him and glancing side ways hoping to see what he is looking at? It speaks insecurity to me, so girls no more snooping. Please drop this nasty habit.Phone-addiction - It sabotages your closeness
We have seen many celebrities say they have forgiven their spouse after snooping, however doubts will always linger. Your spouse will lose trust in you wondering why you violated their privacy. Many relationships never bounce back after one partner confesses to spying on anothers phone or social media accounts. - You become fixated on them and put yourself in a weaker position
When you live your life worrying about what your spouse is upto, you have shifted the power dynamics and are in a weaker position in that relationship. You live your everyday life obsessed with what they are up to, and sis this is draining emotionally, physically and spiritually. Don’t do this to yourself.