Love is something almost everyone hopes to experience. But according to former Machakos County First Lady and author Lilian Ng’an’ga, hate also has an important place in life.
In a message shared on her Instagram Stories, Lilian said that experiencing hate helps people understand what it looks and feels like. She believes this knowledge allows individuals to recognize toxic situations early and avoid making excuses for people who treat them badly.
Her powerful statement quickly caught attention online, with many people discussing whether painful experiences can actually make someone stronger.
The post comes just weeks after Lilian confidently defended her record during her time as Machakos County First Lady. She said she is no longer afraid to speak about the work she did despite criticism from some quarters.
Lilian revealed that a conversation with a stranger encouraged her to openly discuss her journey and promote her book. She maintained that her achievements during her years in public service were real, measurable, and made a positive difference in the lives of many residents.
While serving alongside former Governor Alfred Mutua, Lilian became one of the most visible county First Ladies in Kenya. She regularly took part in community development projects, women’s empowerment programs, social welfare initiatives, and public outreach activities across Machakos County.
Although the position of a county First Lady is not officially established in the Constitution, it often carries significant public expectations. Lilian’s active involvement in county affairs made her a familiar face throughout her tenure.
Her latest reflection has sparked fresh conversations about resilience, personal growth, and emotional intelligence. Many believe her message encourages people to learn from both good and bad experiences instead of allowing painful moments to define them.
As reactions continue to pour in, one question remains: Can experiencing hate truly help someone appreciate love and make wiser choices in life? The debate is only getting started.